Allan Cohen

On my way back home from Seattle in January of this year, I had mad time to kill in the airport. I stopped in at Borders (genius idea, by the way, to have a bookstore in the airport). I kept looking around for books and since the majority of the time that I was in Seattle, the topic of dating and relationships arose quite frequently. I found the book Don't Get Lucky, Get SMART: Why your love life sucks and what you can do about it by Allan Cohen. I don't want to come off as needing a self-help book but I did find it interesting on what it had in store. I read a few chapters and decided to buy it. Before I boarded my flight, I read more than half of the book already. There goes my money, but I guess that's a good thing that it was a book I couldn't stop reading. Anyways, I barely cracked it open again and in a chapter it said:

-Don't curse the jerks for wasting your time. Instead, bless them for motivating you to move ahead.
-You don't need to quit dating or relationships because you had a bad experience. Use the experience to finetune and eliminate the parts that didn't work so that you'll be ready for the next time around.
-Make a "Required" and "Preferred" list and stick to it.
-Every dating experience falls into two categories: 1) to be enjoyed 2)to be learned from.
-Make space for someone who can meet you with a whole heart.



I'm sure the things he writes in this book are things that we know, but for those who don't know, you SHOULD know. I'm just glad there was actually someone who wrote a book about it. Check it out if you're bored at Borders or Barnes & Noble. And, if you see Fonzworth Bentley's book anywhere, please direct me to it.