time spent

friends. how many of us have them? (sorry, i had to put that.) for some reason, i've found myself thinking of all the friendships i have had throughout my life so far. and as far as i know, friendships are learning processes. you meet people. you like them. you don't like them. you befriend some. and those that you befriend, you form a type of kinship with them. you can relate to them, be it that they share the same music that you do or on a serious note the same values and beliefs. unfortunately, there may be times where you may not be on the same page as them after years of knowing them. just like relationships with a boyfriend or girlfriend, friendships sail away too. some may sail away in a perfect storm while others just needed to walk away without negative intentions.

sucks when that happens, but what can you do?

i think i speak for everyone when i say "we all go through phases". but one phase in particular that i want to address, is how your time is spent as far as friendships go or relations with the opposite sex.

we all go through some type of relationship that fucks us up in the end. then in turn we analyze the time we spent and say "damn, i did this and this.. and stopped hanging out with my friends" yadda yadda and etc. etc. i can't knock it because i did it. i see and have seen my friends do it. i see other people trying to warn other friends of doing that (spending too much time with a certain person). but, being the understanding person that i am, i look at situations from all angles. or at least try to. if you enjoy someone's company and want to be with that person however many days out of the week, you're going to do so regardless of what anybody tells you. and, as much as i say this about any action. it's the truth. if you're going to jump because you want to jump and others tell you not to, you're not going to do it just to spite them (let's hope not). but you're more than likely going to do it because it feels right to you and you simply "want" to. nobody's holding a gun to your head (let's hope not).

every person that has gone through a relationship where they regret their time that they didn't evenly balance out with friends and their significant other has vowed to themselves of not repeating those "dark times". understandable. once again, a learning experience. i'm not one of those friends to tell a friend "hey dude. wtf?" because i'm not anyone to tell a friend how to spend their time. and i wouldn't expect someone to tell me the same thing. now, if i'm being ridiculous or retarded and my significant other is beating me and i'm using some lame excuse of "oh, i ran into the punch".. then PLEASE, step in.

i think i put it into my important things to remember to do list to make sure to balance my time spent with friends and my significant other. just going off past mistakes. it'll turn out beneficial though. stay humble with friends and cherish the time spent with your boo. see? it evens out. =)

random.